“Do not be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment.”
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Not too long ago, I had an insightful conversation with Kate Byrne from Betty Means Business, as she shared a few great pieces of business advice around how I can better serve those I’m meant to serve.
One of the words she used when our conversation was coming to a close sparked new insights – or rather, a remembrance of what I knew to be true.
That word was experiment.
“YES,” my soul said.
We are scientists in life; it can get serious sometimes, but it’s all about doing the research, formulating a hypothesis, setting up the experiment, and gathering those results.
Looking back, I realized that I had embarked on my fair share of experiments in life.
Growing up in Midwest City, Oklahoma, I had lived in the same house my entire childhood when I decided to initiate the “California College Experiment,” moving 1500 miles away from all that I knew to Malibu, California, a place vastly different than my hometown, and devoid of any friends or family to support me.
In many ways that experiment was a success…through the experience, I made amazing friendships and learned so much about myself and about life (not to mention the actual knowledge I gained from the courses themselves).
On the other hand, in some ways it wasn’t entirely successful…despite graduating with a business degree from Pepperdine and getting recruited while still in college to work for a large corporation, I only lasted 6 months in my first job, realizing quickly that the traditional “business” path that my degree set me up for wasn’t what my heart desired.
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We can’t fail when we allow the results or our “findings” to give us new information, as long as that new information feeds into the next experiment, integrating what worked and what didn’t.
My next experiment was initiated when I was “bitten by the bug” – the acting bug, that is. And so I gathered my experiment tools by enrolling in classes, taking headshots, and putting together a reel, then immersed myself in this new life experiment.
And in many ways this experiment was also a success…not only had I performed on film and on stage in several great projects, but I also met my soulmate simply by being in the entertainment world, as he too was an actor.
And yet…in other ways, it wasn’t exactly a success. Not just because I wasn’t booking the big films or TV shows, but because something in me wasn’t quite satisfied anymore.
You see, as left-brained logical as we may be as life “scientists,” we always follow our hunches – our intuition at work – and my intuition led me to believe that there was a way that I could help others more directly than I was able to do as an actress.
So I lovingly took those experiment results into the next one – the experiment I’m running now as an Intuitive Coach, serving the people I’m meant to serve, and creating a business and life that encapsulates all that’s important to me.
And my results so far?
Pretty damn amazing considering the freedom I have created in my life and the opportunity to incorporate all of my gifts in ways they hadn’t been used before.
Of course, as I’ve shared before, it’s not always easy.
But those moments of challenge?
Simply opportunities to gather new information in my experiment called life.
I’d love to hear from you:
Is there an area of your life that you had judged as a “failure” before that you can now see as simply an experiment with its own unique findings? Share with the community in the comments below!
As scientists, we don’t go into our experiments unprepared; we gather the best tools and best information at our disposal to get the best results possible.
This is why I invested in Marie Forleo’s B-school nearly 2 years ago, a program that was the catalyst for major breakthroughs in my latest life experiment.
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